Do you remember being asked as a child “ What do you want to be when you grow up?”
When I was in elementary school I thought I wanted to be a ballerina, then a teacher, a doctor, a psychologist. I wanted to be what I thought I might be good at and also of help to those closest to me as well as others. I think it is still true now -I want my strengths and abilities to be of service.
What do you want to be or do before you die? I suppose that would be a truer question to ask if you are no longer a child. For a moment let us consider a child’s response. The more uninhibited the child, the more freely and genuinely they respond. Children’s responses vary depending on their mood, how safe they feel, but most often they are spontaneous and do not take a question too seriously. For a child “time” is on their side and often a non-issue. It is timing that is compassionate and empowering.
As adults “time,” is very much an issue. We allow time to be against us rather than in our favor or simply a non-issue. We think we should know our purpose, vocation, or calling by a certain age or time period in our life. Perhaps we have prescribed to society’s norms and programming on timing. It may be good to consider how freeing and true these norms or programming are for us. Maybe the more important question is how compassionate are we in the questions we ask and the timing we allow for our responses?
What if our timing was more like that of a carefree child? We all age and we will all die but no one knows the exact timing of that. If we had the timing of a child - we would not worry about knowing in this precise moment the answers or about changing our mind at some point. After all, who says we have to have one vocation or any vocation. Seems a weight is lifted when we have the timing of a child.
I remind myself that in this moment I can choose to look within to recognize my needs, to honor my timing and to trust the courage of my heart to be present to myself, others and communicate wholeheartedly. Right now, may my timing and your timing be fearless. :)
So is your time ticking, skipping, pausing or _______?