Out of fear we make choices or decisions that bring temporary peace but inside we feel conflicted, uneasy or betrayed. To the mind there is logic and reason. To the heart there is no rationale but rather faith. If there were a conversation between our heart and mind it would be clear which is which. The mind tries to convince and present pros and cons. The heart is forthcoming and simple. The heart has no need to disprove the mind. The mind analyzes and the heart presents the answer or solution confidently without presenting considerations, reasons or evidence.
There have been several times when out of desperation - I took jobs inspite of the soft voice that said hold off. Logical mind said: “you need a job period.” And while it is true that on planet earth we need a job to help us live- it is also true that the Universe provides for us and responds to our thoughts and desires. I learned the tough way that once you begin to listen more to the mind than the heart - you find yourself feeling betrayed by yourself. Over time it became harder to discern my heart from my minds voice. My mind said “you are x age so you should be…” which was not very supportive at all. Fast forward to this year and instead I asked myself: what is the voice of my heart and how do I know?
The heart’s voice is gentle or sweet, firm, and bold. We become confused or misled by the many voices of the mind attempting to make us believe that it knows best. The mind wants to reign but who is the king or queen? Attempting to listen to our heart when there is a scuffle or struggle in our mind is nearly impossible. It is why so many turn to nature or meditation to quiet the mind. The temptation to run with one of the many thoughts, arguments, reasonings of the mind can be tough to avoid if we don’t have a serenity practice. Afterall when the mind is active -it is like being in a boat of crashing waves & resisting jumping off into a storm. But, if we did jump off the boat there would be stillness as the waves are just multiple thoughts competing for our attention.
Further the heart speaks in now or present tense. The mind looks at the past and future. The mind’s voice offers opinions and talks of “shoulds and should nots.” The voice of the heart on the other hand is authentic, genuine and certain. There may be common sense to both the voice of the heart and mind but while we generally equate emotions to the heart - the mind can be quite emotional and irrational. Part of the measure or discernment is in the ease, flow and clarity felt in our bodies.
The feeling in our bodies can only be measured by us. So when we ask for advice while it may be helpful at the end of the day the one that has to make a choice or decision is ourselves. In a similar way relying on the mind is like relying on advisers rather than ourselves. And while our mind is a part of us and very brilliant -it is also the part of us that can keep us stuck in fears, doubts, and nonsense. Our mind can keep us disturbed by trivial comments or harmless remarks that play over and over like broken records. It is the mind that creates soap operas which run full time if we allow it.
“The mind” is for our use and not for “it” to use us. Just as food is fuel for our bodies & can be enjoyable - the mind is for us to survive, thrive, excel and enjoy our existence. We don’t live for food but we need food to function. Since the mind serves us -it is like our royal counsel and our heart is the King/Queen.
The heart is brave or courageous. The root of the word “courage,” is “cor,” which is the latin word for heart. Truly our heart speaks with courage and is the one that has our back. The heart knows the truth and it offers us peace not conflict.
Other pointers or signs that it is the heart’s voice: it is creative beyond what the mind may wrap itself around. It is loving or compassionate so it may whisper baby steps rather than offer the whole enchilada. The heart’s voice does not judge. The heart’s voice is not conditioned or calculating. The heart’s voice is not threatened by the mind but rather is melodic, soft, and confident. The more we listen to the voice of the heart the more we distinguish it from the many voices of the mind.
In summary the heart speaks to us lovingly, non-judgmentally, honestly, with forthcoming conviction and in simple present terms. It may offer what seem unsound solutions to the mind but its wisdom makes us feel alive and serene when we move to the beat of our heart.
So which do you vow down to your heart or your mind?