Loneliness can be hidden from others but not from ourselves.
The treasure of loneliness may seem hidden to us but it is not. It is not hard to find the treasure of loneliness. Finding the treasure of loneliness is easy. In fact, the treasure can be overlooked.
What may be challenging is what is done with the treasure. The wisdom is in how we use the treasure. It is what we do with the treasure that matters.
There was a time when I could not see the treasure of feeling lonely even when I was right in the middle of it.
The treasure of loneliness is solitude.
Solitude is a true treasure necessary for our evolvement and for our creative endeavors.
In solitude I am able to reflect on my thoughts, beliefs and dreams. In solitude I am free to create and to complete what I have started.
In solitude you and I embrace our lonely hearts and humanity.
My feelings of loneliness persisted until I embraced my lonely heart. Before that my existence was mostly full of despair and invalidating behaviors. I needed to hear myself say how much I needed to forgive myself. I needed to hear my abandoned inner child wanting my attention, patience and tenderness. I needed to be intimate with myself.
Being able to enjoy my life expanded my focus and my heart. I'm more empathic of others struggling with loneliness. I feel compassion for those experiencing severe loneliness from being disenfranchised members of society.
The solitude that came from embracing my loneliness has grounded me in my humanity.
I came to value the true treasure of solitude through introspection. It is through introspection that our lessons are understood. Understanding is godly because there is no judgment and depends on no one else. While introspection is solitary it is very intimate and allows us to better connect to others.
Solitude uncovers the truth of our existence if we allow it. However, sometimes solitude is confused with loneliness, but it is not the same.
Loneliness can be solitary. However, solitude doesn't have to be lonely.
Solitude is a misappraised treasure, often spent unwisely. Like any treasure it has to be valued to be spent wisely or invested to serve us.
Refer to previous post entitled "Paradoxical Cure of Loneliness" to understand more about loneliness. (July 2016)
I became self-destructive in solitude. I never cut on myself with anything, but I would scratch myself. I needed to feel equal or greater physical pain. I was trying to override the emotional pain. It is how I coped as a child and I reverted to scratching at intervals as an adult.
I'm grateful for hope kept me from total self-destruction. I've come a long way and no longer need hurtful coping.
The dichotomy of solitude is destruction and creation, the dark and light of existence.
The light side of solitude is a sanctuary.
In a space of contemplation we can be filled with a subtle energy that aids us to enthusiastically create and complete projects. The dark side of solitude is a war zone. In a war zone we energetically self-destruct intentionally or unintentionally. The effects of war unavoidably ripple all around us. In the aftermath, the damage is so great we cannot stand ourselves nor can we tolerate others.
Love is and does. Love isn’t idle, lazy or unproductive with time.
Solitude can be the birthing space of anything. In solitude we can choose to not only imagine our dreams but bring them in time to life. In solitude artists create their wonderful works of art and love.
In solitude I have recommitted to my personal vision, goals and projects. I am working diligently on completing the book I’ve started. I'm focused in my solitude. I use my time to be in love rather in fear. It is always a choice between the dark and light of our existence.
So long as we exist it is an ever transforming process and journey of becoming more aligned with the truth of our existence.
Moments of loneliness can come and go. They will come up so long as we are human. For me and you they can be reminders of the treasures within and the value of solitude.
What are you doing with the treasure of solitude?
How has solitude transformed you?
Dedicated to the disenfranchised and lonely.