I call it being in heart-empty arms.
The feeling of being in heart-empty arms is like being held by the wind.
There is nothing to lean into. There isn't much comfort in such arms. While I rather be hugged or held by heart--open arms, I understand heart -empty arms because I'v been there.
Emotions like sorrow, grief, anger, and fear impede the free flow of love so we cannot hold others.
I'm grateful for experiencing empty embraces as I get the connection desired is more than skin deep, more than a warm body next to us. I get how much tenderness can come through caring-gentle touch and holding.
I'm glad to hear when someone I've held has shared they truly felt held.
When we've been held to meet others' needs, but, also seemed to receive love, naturally we become confused about what love feels like.
My parent's held me to the extent they had experienced love. I held my mom more than she held me which set me up to love more than to receive love.
It is no surprise I became challenged in matters of "love."
As an attractive female I've questioned whether men could really hold me without strings attached. As womyn we may struggle with being shown love for sex versus sex being a part of love.
Real love can be overlooked easily because of our confusion. Confusion is in the mind. The body knows the truth.
The confusion lessens by contrasting embraces.
It is why hugs can be quite revealing. Hugs express openness to being felt and receiving love. It is felt as warmth and care.
Loving arms reach the spaces in between that need holding. They wordlessly say "you've been strong long enough...melt...let it out."
It is a sweet surrender letting ourselves be held in love.
It is selfless to hold another without expectation or strings attached.
How beautiful that our arms can wrap around each other to hold one another.
Arms wrapped around us encourage us to release what we are carrying. It is why as humans we were given tears to release hurts. Tears melt our pain.
Unreleased pain creates a storm. The storm passes if we can cry and hold ourselves or allow others to hold us.
While my heart is open, I detox it often of emotion's that cloud love's experience. It is necessary in today's world where so many walk around with a hardened heart.
Clouds in our heart are a part of being human. When released they lighten and brighten us.
The world needs each of us to release our hurts, to hold each other for a brighter and lighter tomorrow.
- Human arms were given to us to 'hold' one another.
- Human tears were given to us to "melt" the hurts in our hearts.
- Melt-in arms are safe loving arms.
- Love can't be understood because sometimes what we've experienced as love often has not been.
- Melting the hardened parts of our heart means surrendering the pain.
- Hugs reveal openness to being felt and receiving love.
- A brighter world through more wordless holding.
When was the last time you just communicated through tender touch and affectionate embrace?
Dedicated to all those needing more tender caring touch.
And to those of us who have not found strong arms to hold us.