Themes of loss have the potential to victimize while grief just means I have loved.
I feel grateful for my human condition allows me to love and be loved.
If we have loved, we have lived. As they say we all die, but, not all of us live.
While it is incredibly wonderful to connect, love and hope for a future with our lover, there is no guarantee that it is forever.
Loss says it is forever.
Loss is desire and past focused.
Loss puts the focus on our lover and what no longer is.
The loss of a lover may seem permanent, but, grief is not forever.
Grief says it shall pass even when it hurts right now.
Grief is surrender and present focused.
Grief puts the focus on my feelings and needs moment by moment.
The experience of loss is part of grieving, but, grieving is never a loss.
However, loss without grief can cause suffering when we give up on love, ourselves, and/or sink into outdated patterns of despair, hopelessness, depression and self-defeat.
In those instances, I ask myself, am I a victor or a victim of what is?
Life is full of choices. Today's choices may not be tomorrow's best decisions, but, in the moment we all do the best we can. If we could have done differently, there is still a choice to forgive starting with ourselves. Choice of hope over giving up. Choice to align and act out of love rather than fear.
Loss of lovers is part of experiencing life and ourselves. Lovers mirror parts of ourselves. Lovers help us learn about ourselves and how to love more wholeheartedly.
Even if the loss were forever, I can still choose to be grateful for having loved. I can be grateful for what I learned while I was with them and even from my time apart from them.
No connection is ever a loss. Relationships are happening in the eternal now.
Who knows the future with absolute certainty?
Gratitude is a choice I have that allows me to shift not only my mood but my attitude and ultimately my actions.
I choose to be victor, to keep hope alive and focus on loving me by amping my self-care.
Every day I can choose to honor Life by being grateful for everything just as it is.
I invite you to feel into your being amidst thoughts, sensations,..
I invite you to focus on your heart area. Breathe and exhale with sound or a sigh. Repeat until there is a little more lightness in your awareness.
How does the simplicity of being able to connect and love make you feel?
Grateful I hope!
Now, ask the following:
Am I focused more on what I want, than on what I have (am I missing out on right now)?
Can I receive what I want, when I am focused on what I do not have?