Is there a key factor in my overall growth as a human being?
Can I block my own development and freedom?
Does guarding myself emotionally and mentally- allow me to grow and be free?
These are the questions I consider and hope will prompt your own inner inquiry.
This post is ultimately about what impedes our freedom from the inside out.
Growth requires space.
As living beings we require space to grow. Space for growth not just in the physical sense....
Significant moments in time impact us. One traumatic experience can transform us and seem life changing.
Some experiences leave such deep wounds and scars that we veil ourselves off. Then, we build defenses that serve us well, until they block our freedom.
How can we be free when our mental and emotional defenses prevent us from being truly open to connect and relate in kind and caring ways?
We cannot thrive if we are guarding.
How can I be happy in a cage?
To be happy I must be free to live an authentic life.
An authentic life means I am being myself.
Being anything but authentic or myself, is being caged. That is not a happy existence.
Being in a tight space, I/we cannot grow.
When I/we protect mentally and emotionally, the space for growth is tight.
Metaphorically we may be in our accustomed space unable to stretch and grow.
Growth happens when I am willing to step out of my comfort zone and be seen as I am.
Guarding myself means I am watchful. If I live in reality, I live fully and as present as possible.
It has taken me some time to realize that walling myself off is not as kind as showing up even when it seems nerve racking or scary.
I may not consistently like what reality presents me and yet the alternative is to remain in similar circumstances hoping for change and wishing for faster relief.
Being unguarded allows me to assimilate reality.
Nothing grows when it is cramped in and shut off from nutrients and light.
A key aspect of growth is allowing the process to unfold.
I can notice what life presents me. I can resist or make other choices that ultimately promote confidence of going where I once feared or doing what was once a source of anxiety.
If I disengage from the Dance of Life, life does and will invite me over and over to dance.
I just have to be willing to take the first step.
A choice to be step out boldly and yet gently.
On the other side of the veil of protection is freedom.