regardless of what I want?
or when my needs are not being met?
It seems unlikely that I can be happy when what I have is not what I want or NOT sufficient.
Wants may be compromisable but needs are not.
Well-being as a human being is dependent on my needs being met. It is hard to be happy when various needs are unmet. As unmet needs lead to negative feelings/emotions. Too many unmet needs is to disconnect from life within.
Disconnection from my own needs is denying life and therefore a slow death.
So many unmet needs, made me an angry child. To cope with a very unstable and confusing upbringing I turned my anger in. Others needs came before my own and it became easy to misidentify my needs. That habit became depression.
So, when 'depressed' it is a sure way of knowing needs have been neglected.
I believe Happiness comes from being in the moment, aware of what is and embracing it.
Not so easy when there are attachments to how things could be....
Wanting other than what is, is to choose unhappiness.
Depression never feels like a choice, but, it is a progressive neglect of needs. Internally life is repressed when needs are not met.
As an adult I have noticed that I end up depressed when I fail to recognize my needs. Or I fall back on the old habit of depression, when my choices seem unpleasant or too limited. It appears easier to depress than to take charge or accept things just as they are. To take charge requires strength and courage and to accept things requires surrender.
Perhaps, it is why the serenity prayer asks for wisdom to know the difference between what one can and cannot change.
Needs are wants that are not compromisable. To compromise needs is to compromise the life force within.
To compromise my needs is to sacrifice my happiness and ultimately my life. I am free to choose Life or to deny it.
At any moment what is alive in me are needs. Being attuned to my needs is vital to my well-being.
I choose well-being and happiness by allowing my needs or Life to express themselves.
What is alive in you at this moment and how are you choosing to express it?
This post is an expression of great hope for humanity that we come together to understand our needs.
Are we taking care of the planet that holds and nurtures us?
Are we choosing Life or outdated coping habits that lead us to be an unhappy... world community?