No jurors or fair trial only tough judges and harsh verdicts. Condemned for life?
Courthouses serve to bring justice by determining right from wrong and through a fair trial of neutral jurors concludes in sentencing the guilty party.
Within us can exist a similar system and courthouse that developed in our formative years.
Out of fear I learned... to obey... to avoid further condemnation, knowing there would be no opportunity for a fair trial.
Fear makes us submit and eventually rebellious and even aggressive.
This post is about transforming our inner courthouses into compassionate homes by cultivating self-kindness as that leads us to collectively create a harmonious and peaceful world community.
In order to cultivate compassion, I invite myself and you to recognize those moments where we are everything but kind, gentle, and supportive of ourselves.
It is about going within and letting go of the continuous chatter of thoughts and who the world busily tells us we are or should be.
For me the opportunity comes when the judgmental or critical aspects are barely noticeable. These aspects can be brutal if we neglect to be fully present to life.
The unnoticed brutal aspects lead to pain and disease.
Through my body I can tell when I have been less than kind. I see bodily pain as redirecting my attention to the thoughts and emotions that led to it's current condition.
The brutal aspects are not enemies to be fought, ignored, neglected or destroyed.
Instead, it is important to notice the voice that rarely quiets. That voice can say wonderful things too, but, it is not who I am. You and I are the ones who notice...
I notice that when I am 'the judged and the judge' the verdict is often harsh. I learned long ago to condemn myself when I did not live up to standards or expectations of my judges.
I was barely able to utter a word when he said, "don't talk back at me!" He had the look of scorn. I often tried to explain myself and attempted to get my needs met, but, instead I was shamed for having feelings...
No point in judging my judges as that does not serve me well.
The process for me is to notice and remain centered in myself rather than over involved in those matters that I wish I could change, but, perhaps have no business in changing.
Little by little I can turn my intimate courthouse into a safe loving home.
I make my conscious goal a choice to be the witness that steps outside the courtroom to participate in the greater world or reality.
If the outer world is also a reflection of our inner worlds, then it is important I align in mind, body and spirit.
Therefore, it is important that there be congruence in what I think, feel and do.
I cannot prevent the experiences that life presents me.
I cannot always re-arrange the things that challenge or disturb me.
I can choose to stop my usual or habitual reactions and overtime respond in different ways.
I can allow experiences to run their course or pass through. Experiences are ongoing and only harder when resisted.
Each time I am thee active observer rather than reactor in my life, I notice a chair is taken up by an aspect that is already within me. An aspect of self-tenderness, kindness, patience, understanding...
Sometimes she is a wise motherly aspect, other times she is a childlike playful aspect that reminds me not to take 'it' seriously. And yet other times she is a mature aspect that reminds me to be fearless.
It may be the work of a lifetime to transform my intimate courthouse into a safe loving home. I remind myself that I am kind...with others, so all I have to do is turn that quality on myself when an unresolved fear comes up.
All of us have a part to transform the courthouses of the world into restorative justice spaces. All of us can start by transforming our intimate courthouses into compassionate homes.
The space between unkindness and compassion is not void nor hyperactive. Kindness and compassion may seem dormant at times, but they are within us.
Let us awaken... open our hearts and be compassionate. No need to fight the critical or judgmental aspects. No need to hide or flee from those less than kind aspects. We are evolving beings. As humans a willingness to notice and an intention to be loving can be enough moment by moment.
How are you transforming the less than kind aspects and seeing the world around you...?
Are you clear about your intentions when you speak... share yourself?